Hey there fabulous friends….
Long time no see or talk. Right? Sometimes when people disappear they come back and sometimes they do not.
Today…I am making an entrance. Without my heels, without my glitter, without my Starbucks in hand, without my mascara and lip gloss.
Today…I am speaking with the truth.
Today…I am telling you like it is. No more holding it all back.
Today…I am choosing to no longer be the doormat for others.
Today…is the beginning of the beginning. For me. For you.
Today….is whatever you decide it is.
Because today is not over yet, the year is not over yet, your life is not over yet.
Here is what has been going on (with me):
Life has been happening. Thoughts have been thought. Crap has been going down. Whispers has been whispered (in front and behind the back).
Over the last 12 months, I have been happy, pissed, hurt, upset, heart-broken, happy, sad, angry, appalled, thrilled, and then you can hit repeat on those emotions.
I have been listening and not doing.
I have been dreaming and not taking action.
I get all excited about a new idea or a new project, things start rolling and then BAM. I slap myself with a self-sabotage tactic.
Then I had people around me in my head — “Sang, you need to be careful. You need to be cautious. You can’t say that. You can’t do it that way.”
And what did I do? I creeped myself under a rock and stayed there. I hid from my own dream. I scared myself shitless of my own vision. I turned into the girl whom my father said would amount to nothing.
So I am making a public declaration today. Right here. Right now.
Single Mother Academy will launch in 2016. And if you know me, you know my passion is making a change in the lives of Single Mothers. I want them to succeed, I want them to wake up happy, I want them to live happy lives filled with love and laughter and where guilt is minimized.
The Single Mother Academy is a place where Single Mothers are welcome with open arms of love and acceptance. We do not judge you. We care about you. We listen. We want you to succeed in life. In motherhood. In love. In relationships. In business. In who you are.
Yes. You are enough. Just as you are.
And because I want to know who you are, where you are, and what makes you the perfect form of you.
I am gathering stories from my single mothers to share with the world. Because I want other Single Mothers to know they are not alone.
When I became a mother, I never dreamed I would do it alone. No one wakes up and says, “let me just do this parenting thing ALL by myself.” I had visions of love being the infamous white picket fence with a beautiful house, kids running around waiting for their father to get home, having wonderful friendships with women and the feeling of the happily ever after.
That vision was shattered. Only for me to see what was really REAL.
Real was taking my son to college classes with me because I didn’t have support.
Real was being on welfare and food stamps.
Real was being in relationship after relationship with no picket fence.
Real was struggling to stay on top of my finances.
Real was feeling guilty for being a Single Mother.
Real was crying at night because I felt I was never enough.
There was always a voice in my head that was a constant reminder that…
Being a Single Mother is not a bad thing.
Being a Single Mother is not about being broke, poor, and abandoned.
Being a Single Mother is not automatically giving others permission to step all of you.
Being a Single Mother is not the statistic I have to own.
Being a Single Mother is what I decide it is.
Because at the end of every day — I am a woman. I have a voice. And, most importantly, I am a mother.
A mother who cares for her kids.
A mother who wants more for her kids than she had.
A mother who wants to make enough money to be financially free.
A mother who wants to laugh, make memories, and give her kid’s life experiences.
A mother who wants to stand up for other Single Mothers and give them a place to thrive, be accepted, not judged, and hand them tools and resources to be great.
I am committed to you — the Single Mother.
I want to hold your hand. Hug you. Show you that you CAN have everything you want.
I believe in you when others do not. I know you are capable of running a Fortune 500 company if you want. You can do the impossible. I believe in your talents. Your dreams. Your desires.
I accept you for the woman you are. The places you have been. The hurt you have. The decisions you have made.
Together, we can rally the Single Mothers of the world who want more and dare to have it all to share a place of peace, laughter, love, and sisterhood.
Today — we get to decide how tomorrow will begin.
From my fingertips to your eyes,