As women, we ask our friends or those around us for their opinions.
Because we seek validation.
Because we need someone to tell us that we aren’t crazy for our thinking.
Because we need to know that we are not alone in this experience.
What happens next is pivotal.
You either make a decision with the most confidence votes for those you spoke to or you make the decision sings to your happiness.
And, I get it, it’s hard to make a decision alone.
What is right? What is wrong? What happens if?
For me, I think back to a time when I had to make a decision like this.
I was on a date with a guy who I had been seeing for quite some time. He wanted to get married. I was apprehensive.
Everyone around me would say things like, “You guys are so great together”, “When are you guys going to get married” and every time I heard those questions, it would make my skin crawl but…
I started think they were right. I should just do it and live this life because it is what I was supposed to do. Society is saying so.
Then the day came. We went out to dinner and went for a walk along the breezy pier. I gave him a hug and immediately felt the ring box in his coat pocket.
I froze. Breathe. Breathe. Don’t give in.
Then I said it.
I looked him straight in his eyes, tapped the ring box and said, “Whatever this is in here, you should leave it in there. It is not going to happen.”
And I walked away. I may have broken his heart but I was true to mine.
And I am here to tell you dahling……You already have the answer inside you.
What does YOURÂ heart say?
From my fingertips to your eyes